Vance is great at piano but he hates lessons. HATES them! He doesn't really mind practicing but could not despise me more when it is time for lessons.
I feel strongly that he continues for a few reasons.
1 - It's one of the few things that is challenging for him. School is so easy for him. Piano is something I can teach at his level which means sometimes it is a struggle at the beginning. He gives up when he thinks it is too hard. I want him to know that he can do things he doesn't think he is capable of if he is willing to put in a little extra effort. It's a life skill that I think way too many people lack.
2 - He's good! I used to teach piano and I have never had a student as good as Vance. With just a small amount of practice he can play the songs almost perfect.
3 - God wants us to grow and use our talents. I don't really use my piano skills for much besides my own enjoyment. I think part of what my talent is meant to be used for is to expose my children to music.
What we have decided is that you can take piano lessons from kindergarten through 6th grade (those are the elementary grades in our school district. In middle school, the kids can choose to quit piano if they choose a musical elective (band, choir, orchestra). If they don't want a musical elective they have to continue piano at home. In high school they can make the decision to quit pursuing anything in music.
I thoroughly explained this to Vance a few times because I think he thought if he threw a big enough fit I would let him quit. Well, he almost had me on his most recent tantrum.
What started it is when I asked him to try a song again but much slower. He was sure he could only play it fast. He "just can't play slow." I explained that's like saying you could run but not walk so let's try again playing slowly to see if you can fix the mistakes. He played it slow...and perfect...but was pissed. I walked away to let him cool down and told him to come get me when he was ready to finish his lesson.
He decided to up the intensity of his aggression and threw his iPad. It completely shattered. He threw it so hard the screen and the LCD behind the screen broke. I think it just may be the best natural consequence ever. When he eventually cooled down, he asked if I was going to fix it. I told him it would be $175 to fix it. My response was, "I'm sorry you got so upset and broke it. The only way it's getting fixed is if you earn $175 to pay for it."

I then told him he needed to write me a one page letter about how he is sorry and won't be disrespectful. I gave him a few other ideas of what he could write about to fill up the page. He came back with this and a devilish smirk on his face...

That is when I was ready to come unhinged!!! He is usually such a good boy but man alive he was testing my patience!!!
At the end of the day he did write me a better letter and we were able to sit down and talk about piano. We talked about why it is important to me, how we can change things to make it better for him, and reviewed the ages he would be able to quit. We also talked about the other consequences for his actions.
In retrospect the whole iPad thing has been a blessing. Vance has decided he doesn't care anymore if he has an iPad. He has filled his free time with other things. We always monitored electronics but he would always prefer his iPad to anything else. Now he'll play the occasional PS3 game or get on the computer but he has been playing outside more, doing art projects, and other random activities. It was definitely a blessing in disguise.
Wish us luck with our future piano endeavors!